How can I be an Interesting Person?
”How can I be an interesting person?” I am not sure if we can ask ourselves this question enough…
We want to be trendy, we want to be modern, we want to follow what’s happening, we want a great career, we want a lot of money, we want love, relationships… We never say, “I want to be an interesting person.” We never talk about what we want to be; it’s always about what we want to have, where we want to go…
The last time I had a very interesting conversation with one of my friends, he was giving me advice about things that I need to focus on for my 26th birthday. And he said something that caught my attention.
He told me, “Rita, you have to invest in yourself, so you become an interesting person.” An interesting person? I thought… How can I be an interesting person? And this has stuck with me since then.
How can I be an interesting person? What does this mean? Is it related to my job title? Is it related to my career? Is it related to the people I know? Is it related to the money I have? Is it related to my education?
I kept thinking, and I started observing…
Every time I met someone or talked to someone, I asked myself, “Do you find them to be an interesting person?” I’m not going to lie; it was difficult to answer this question and remove the bias of liking the person or the relationship I have with this person.
The conclusion of my observations was that the people whom I found interesting had something in common: they were extremely busy doing things that had nothing to do with earning money, and they talked about things that had nothing to do with their jobs.
When coming back from a weekend, the first question that everyone asks is, “How was your weekend? What did you do?”
People lose interest when they hear someone saying, “I was at home, just chilling.”
I noticed that the weekend after, they kind of label you, “What were you doing this weekend, Rita, just chilling?”
And I noticed that when other people spent 10 minutes describing all the things they did over the weekend, they all of a sudden became “interesting to listen to.” Their reputation changes, and the next weekend it’s more like, “What did you do this weekend, Emilie, enlighten us with your stories.”
All of a sudden, Emilie is becoming interesting; she is an interesting person to listen to.
Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that there is any harm in not doing anything during your weekend. I am just saying that it kind of labels you differently if you keep chilling…
I guess what I am trying to say is, instead of focusing on the outside and how we appear in front of society, we need to focus on who we are as people.
Interesting doesn’t have to mean that you spend your weekends on boats or visiting museums.
Interesting can just mean that you have something to talk about. So how to be an interesting person?
I think the most important thing is that you have to ask yourself who you are, what do you like, and what are your passions.
In order to be an interesting person, you have to invest in your person, and this can just mean to spend time discover yourself, so you can talk about it.
So, what is it that you have to talk about?
If you think that you still need to figure out more about yourself and discover what you like, and don’t like, don’t hesitate to read my blog about how to discover your passion.